Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Why are you talking so loud?

You don't need to raise your voice to make a point. Frankly, this may have the opposite affect as people like to receive information in different ways. Raising your voice could easily force a person to get defensive or "crawl into a shell".

Why are you raising your voice to begin with? Does it make you feel good? Is it strictly self serving? Can't you find someplace else to vent? How about the gym or maybe screaming into your pillow.

Instead of shouting, how about asking a good question or two? Maybe your frustration is unwarranted and you are simply not communicating well.

Asking a good "why" question takes patience and practice. More on this later.

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